200 Things That Make Me Happy

 

Although clinical work isn’t my primary professional responsibility, I love to keep a toe dipped in the water, so I co-facilitate an intensive outpatient group twice a week. It keeps me connected and inspired. A few times a year, we take a break from facilitating our normal therapeutic rotation and offer a structured gratitude group. Rather than asking my clients to write a rote list of things for which they’re grateful, I reframe the concept of gratitude. I ask them to write a list entitled “100 Things That Make Me Happy”. A huge part of recovery, for me, is noticing and savoring the little things.

There’s an old saying that goes, “we teach what we need to learn”. It’s been a shit year – and I’ve spent a lot of time processing the lessons. There’s nothing wrong with that. But none of my recovery mentors have ever said, “it’s more important to make a gratitude list when things are going great”. In fact, the opposite is true.

In early recovery, writing this list is hard. Your brain is healing. You’re just starting the process of cognitive restructuring. Consequently, your thoughts tend toward the negative. You may not even know yourself – your likes and dislikes – and what makes you happy. This is completely normal. But it’s important to start somewhere.

Even though I’ve had a little practice, it’s easy to forget the significance of this activity. Since I didn’t slow down until the 130-150 mark, I decided to challenge myself and push to 200. I stress this to my clients: it’s not a competition. It’s an awakening of the spirit.

I’d love to see your list! Share in the comments!

200 Things That Make Me Happy – A Gratitude List

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Courtesy of https://www.alifeinprogress.ca/
  1. my wife, J.L.
  2. my dog, Cedric
  3. my Subaru
  4. dry shampoo
  5. Pressed Cafe (5a. iced mocha lattes, 5b. beet salads, 5c. white chocolate cookies, 5d. spicy Greek burritos, 5e. grilled tofu 5f. pesto mac & cheese)
  6. overalls
  7. the baby curls at the back of J.L.’s neck
  8. J.L.’s hugs
  9. Trader Joe’s
  10. apple pie
  11. most pie, really
  12. my porch
  13. porches in general
  14. knowing there’s a good show waiting on Netflix
  15. Kissing Cedric’s paws and lips
  16. when Cedric’s paws smell like sweet grass
  17. sweatpants
  18. when Chipotle makes my burrito bowl just right
  19. the sound of peepers
  20. Stevie Nicks
  21. tattoos
  22. airports
  23. tokyo milk honey & the moon candle
  24. farmers’ markets
  25. fresh Maine seafood
  26. antique stores
  27. book stores
  28. botanical gardens
  29. regular gardens
  30. greenhouses
  31. fuzzy blankets
  32. finding a rare seashell
  33. soft serve
  34. FoMu vegan shakes
  35. Olive Garden
  36. french fries for dinner (with honey mustard or sweet & sour dipping sauce)
  37. Mike’s Pastries
  38. aquariums
  39. street art
  40. Christmas stockings
  41. string lights
  42. northern lights dark rum & oak candle
  43. campfires/fire pits
  44. Annie’s cheddar flavor vegan mac ‘n cheese
  45. independent film
  46. Cedric’s puppy noises
  47. kettle cooked chips
  48. my Sudanese prayer beads
  49. dog memes
  50. art museums
  51. Augusten Burroughs
  52. Patti Smith
  53. a hot shower after a long day
  54. that feeling when J.L. and I are driving away from the city toward adventure
  55. when wise old people tell good stories or say profound things
  56. TV shows starring, written or produced by Ricky Gervais
  57. Nadia Bolz-Weber
  58. pin-up girls
  59. Converse
  60. the smell of the Atlantic ocean
  61. Waterfire
  62. vintage markets
  63. street festivals
  64. when J.L. laughs really hard
  65. Burying my face in Cedric’s chest
  66. Cedric’s ear hairs
  67. Cedric’s eyelashes
  68. the smell of Whole Foods
  69. When Whole Foods’ hot bar serves perfect tofu
  70. Whole Foods’ bakery
  71. Massabesic Audubon on a summer evening
  72. Rhye
  73. the smell of rain on hot pavement
  74. Florida palm trees
  75. the Gulf of Mexico
  76. hummus wraps from Hot Rize or St. Augustine’s Crave
  77. Kookaburra Honey Badger iced latte with honey
  78. listening to jazz with the window open during a rainstorm
  79. Chicago
  80. Lexie’s black bean burgers and fries
  81. fresh flowers
  82. dried flowers
  83. mason jars
  84. glass bottles
  85. a good salad – especially with local, recently harvested produce
  86. Shiny Brite Christmas ornaments
  87. Bambolina wood fired pizza
  88. Michael’s the craft store
  89. antique car shows
  90. the cello or violin
  91. slow dancing in the kitchen with J.L.
  92. chocolate croissants
  93. hoodies
  94. the smell of patchouli on other people
  95. Disney/Pixar movies
  96. empty beaches
  97. giant pool floats
  98. J.L.’s love notes
  99. warm items from the dryer
  100. clean sheets
  101. strawberry shortcake
  102. fireworks
  103. Cedric’s whiskers on my face
  104. Cedric’s eyes
  105. good hair days
  106. root beer floats
  107. kayaking
  108. spanish moss
  109. jigsaw puzzles
  110. National Parks
  111. J.L.’s cooking
  112. planning our future
  113. Mucha
  114. The Golden Girls
  115. muscle shirts
  116. Cirque du Soleil
  117. the sound of Cedric crunching
  118. cool bird sightings
  119. the lupines and daisies on the side of the highway
  120. all wildflowers
  121. how happy Cedric is to see me when I come home
  122. when Cedric wipes his eyes with his paws
  123. Cedric’s elbows
  124. discovering a new song on YouTube
  125. drinking tea or eating lunch with my dearest friends – especially outside!
  126. when the cupboards are stocked with snacks
  127. ripped jeans
  128. J.L.’s smile
  129. beard Snapchat filters
  130. bowties for dogs
  131. dogs wearing sweaters
  132. sea salt on my skin
  133. mocktails that don’t suck
  134. built-in bookshelves
  135. decluttering/minimizing
  136. collecting stickers from our travels
  137. Dwight Schrute
  138. getting through the day without any anxiety symptoms
  139. Bombas or Smartwool socks
  140. documentaries
  141. papasan chairs with fuzzy cushions
  142. cattails
  143. fields of sunflowers
  144. the sound of cicadas
  145. butterfly sightings
  146. holding J.L.’s hand
  147. when J.L. sings to me in the car
  148. decorating for holidays
  149. taking nature pictures
  150. alpacas
  151. neon signs
  152. Chihuly
  153. the smell of fresh Christmas tree
  154. lemurs
  155. watching Elf on Thanksgiving night
  156. craft soda – especially blueberry pop
  157. when a Prince song comes on the radio – especially Purple Rain
  158. tofu spring rolls
  159. old school Missy Elliott
  160. Wentworth
  161. laughing with my coworkers
  162. driving at dusk with the windows down and the music loud
  163. random acts of kindness
  164. finding secret places that tourism hasn’t ruined
  165. chopsticks
  166. foggy/misty fields
  167. the smell of sea in fog
  168. honey from our friend’s homestead
  169. fresh baked bread
  170. the golden hour
  171. comfortable sleeping weather
  172. mastering a new trick in Lightroom or Photoshop
  173. colorful nail polish
  174. vinyl records
  175. recognizing the divine in a stranger
  176. the way light filters through blinds
  177. hidden object games
  178. patterns or symmetry in nature
  179. the first sip of coffee
  180. moody skies
  181. Yam I Am burrito from 86 This!
  182. my last name
  183. when Cedric spoons me
  184. when Cedric holds my hand with his paw
  185. the way J.L. makes me feel unconditionally loved and secure
  186.  when J.L. is safe at home
  187. hats
  188. foxes
  189. restored/refinished/bespoke furniture
  190. sustainable living
  191. One Strange Rock
  192. Gabor Maté
  193. a relaxing massage
  194. Demented Santa (a Christmas landmark in our city)
  195. Sally Mann’s southern landscapes
  196. jellyfish
  197. family dinner nights
  198. walking barefoot
  199. my wedding ring
  200. the beauty of J.L.’s heart

 

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